13 Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. 14 Let all that you do be done in love.
I recently went to a training course through my work to determine my social style. This is a fancy way of saying, “how I behave and communicate with others.” It helps to determine what are my natural tendencies in those interactions and how versatile I am at working through the other styles to ensure all of my communication is as effective as it can be. Even though I was not excited to go at first, it turns out that it was a great course to provide some feedback as well as confirm some things that I already knew. For instance, I am analytical analytical. This means my primary and secondary behaviors are both analytical. Now I could bore you with what all that means, but the part that is most important in the results is this sentence: “The analytical style person appears to live life according to the facts, principles, logic, and consistency that one can find in reality.”
This was a very intense statement for me as that is honestly exactly what I pray for…REALITY. I pray that I would see things through Christ’s eyes for what they really are and not for what I want them to be. I want to see my marriage, my children, my own personal walk where they truly are and not allow Satan to blind me to reality. I want my connection to God to be as authentic and full as possible and for that to occur I have to see honestly where my heart and my life are. I believe that far to often we as believers, parents, and spouses willingly believe the lies of Satan because that is easier than dealing with the reality of where our heart truly is.
For example, I often see parents that will allow sin to occur in their home without addressing it and will be shocked by the results that it harvests later in life. And I believe that is because it is easier to say “Well you know how teenagers are”, or “1,2,3…don’t make me count again” than it is to sacrifice your time and energy to carry out punishments that are needed. Reality is exhausting as well as acoustic at times, but if we are to truly grow then we must pursue the realness of our Christian faith. We must not let tradition or customs dictate our beliefs as we must allow scripture to do that. Of course, with any conversation the pendulum can swing to far the other way as well. We can attempt to use rigid rules that are so strict that we believe the lie from Satan that tough rules will result in strong character and maturity. This is not reality either as this can grieve the relationship thereby exasperating the child which causes more sin and destruction leading to the opposite desired results.
So my cry out to God almost nightly is that I don’t miss anything in my home, marriage, children, or personal walk. That all sin would be exposed, so that I can truly live my life in a manner that is worthy of God’s sacrifice on the cross. I know that I will never truly be worthy, but if I live as Paul instructed us to live in 1 Corinthians 16:13-14, I may at least hear “Well done.”
So men of God , I challenge you to be a Reality Warrior. This means that you must “BE Watchful” for all sin in your life and that of your families. You must be willing to “STAND FIRM IN THE FAITH” and address all aspects of evil without wilting to the cultural pressure or the lies of Satan. We must “ACT LIKE MEN” and put away laziness so that we can overcome the hard aspects of life, so that we can love our wife irregardless of the amount of respect she shows, raise our children to understand that no sin is okay, and that God cares about every word, thought, and action we take. We must “BE STRONG” enough to let go of pride and get transparent with our lives and get on our knees and ask for help from the Lord to lead our homes and to keep our eyes in reality. And we must “LET ALL WE DO BE DONE IN LOVE” so that we are not hypocritical and judging others with the judgment of God and judging ourselves with the grace of God.
Please take a moment to watch this video on Google’s newest product. It should make you smile as you think about looking at your life desiring to see reality.