I want to share with all you husbands an article that my wife came across in her readings and shared with me. The focus of the article is to help husbands provide security for their wives however I think that it is an article that all husbands and husbands-to-be should read.
However before you read it please read Ephesians 5:25-33 below. This is our instructions on being a biblical husband from scripture which Paul shared with us. Once you have read this part of Paul’s letter read the article and watch how scripture is put in plain applicable steps that we as husbands can put God’s commands into action.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.[a] 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself…
Here is the article:
Uncertainty. It’s part of daily living.
We aren’t certain our alarms will wake us up on time, aren’t certain we’ll have enough gas to get to work, aren’t certain the kids finished all their homework, and aren’t certain we locked the door.
And we aren’t certain we will keep our job another month, aren’t certain we’ll have enough money to pay the rent, aren’t certain our kids will make the right choices when we aren’t around. The list goes on.
But when it comes to your wife feeling secure in your marriage there shouldn’t be uncertainty. She needs to be able to count on you, her husband. Here are some ways you can help make your wife feel secure.
1. Financial. It is up to you to make her feel secure by working hard, staying out of excessive debt, providing financial stability, and wisely planning a budget and sticking to it.
2. Children. Some days, your wife will want to catch a movie with friends or go run errands around town. Give her the freedom to do these things by knowing how to take care of the kids when she’s not there. Be active in learning how to feed them, bathe them, and put them to bed so that you can do it on your own when your wife is gone. She needs to have confidence in you so she can have that sense of security while she’s gone.
3. Relational. Too often, relational uncertainty is the root of a wife’s insecurity. Be sure that your wife is completely confident that you would never pursue an affair with another woman. Train your eyes to not look at other women, online or offline, so your wife can know you only have eyes for her.
Your wife also needs the security of knowing that you are on her team, that you are man of integrity and a man she can trust. She needs to know that you are committed to her for life.
What are some other ways you have made your wife feel secure?
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